I M Povey New Marske Harriers
Also, as in your name, Stagger, it means you're not lying down, but just rising from another fall and just look back on here and see the support you have. That 'rising from another fall' of course goes out to all others who have been on here sharing their own issues.
A circular route mostly downhill
Managed a potter round Rivvy Pike.
Finished 2nd last but caught up with some wonderful people.
If only someone from the past would allow me to move on!
Life is tough, battling is tougher and losing is not an option.
Stagger the man is so low that the only way is up.
Hard in all areas.
"The greatest accomplishment is not in never falling, but in rising again after you fall."
Good on you for getting out there Stagger and doing the race. Keep on keeping on. Every step is a step forward. In the end, the only person who can stop you moving on is yourself. You hold the key to that. Other people will do whatever they do, you can't control that. But you can examine your own reactions to events. Have you ever tried an 8 week mindfulness meditation programme? Is it something you'd look at? It works for some people.
Loving life in the Highlands
At the top of a piece of paper write a short statement such as the ones above that is bothering you, dwell on it and think how it makes you feel. Write down how it makes you feel, think of how much of your life is built around this statement. Ask yourself whether you can see a reason to drop this belief, and commit it to paper. Consider who you would be if you weren't attatching to this statement, think of the person who you would want to be without the statement and write it all down. Finally ask yourself if you can think of a stress-free reason to hang onto the statement; the answer will always be no.
You can't actually cast out a stressful thought forcefully, but through this process you can allow your mind to realise that the thought is causing terrible pain. When you realise this your mind lets go of the thought itself.
Once you have accepted you are attatching to something that is harming you, you can turn the statement around so it projects inwardly at yourself and reflect on any significance you observe. For example:
"Jane doesn't respect me because she cancelled our date"
"I don't respect the fact that Jane had to cancel our date"
Can't climb for toffee...