Why not talk to him and say " sorry mate I was out of order. I didn't realise you had something serious going. It is obvious that you are the best man in her eyes."
If reason doesn't work, then avoidance is the only tactic, unless you are good at violence and even then only as a last resort and away from any cctv etc!
From your original post - as others have said - it does look like you've brought it on yourself & therefore should face the consequences like a man. If it's just the way it's written (i.e. you didn't know it was his girlfriend before you started hitting on her) then it's a bit of a nasty situation you've landed in.
But bulking up quicky?
1) Bulking up won't necessarily put the bully off. Sometimes the bigger you are, the more they seek you out, as if you're a challenge! I had some dude square up to me in ASDA a few weeks back, because I clipped his trolley. He was in front of his bird and so just wouldn't leave it, despite the fact I had a good 2-3inches in height on him and at least half a stone.
2) There's no overnight 'bulk up' recipe. There's no real-life 'Weight Gain 4000' (Beefcake!!). You want to bulk up, you have to work your body and eat right.
I can understand wanting to bulk-up - I was 6'1" & 10.5st in my late teens and lacked confidence, and do take some confidence now from my 12.5st (and fairly trim) frame. However, to do this, you need to hit the weights and ensure you're eating right.
As has been said on other threads relating to weights/gym training, etc. you need to ensure there's a balance. Alexandra called them "mirror muscles" - the pecs and abs that most folk in your situation will focus on, but you need to ensure you also work the back (upper and lower), the shoulders, etc. And while you're at it, since you're a runner first and foremost, get the legs working too!
One other thing to bear in mind if you're a competitive runner (which I'm not), you'll have to work harder to cart your extra bulk around. I'm comfortable with that, but are you?
"The best shield is to accept the pain, then what can really destroy me?"
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Wow! Lot of hostility on here! I only came on to ask a question regarding training.
I didn't know this girl had a boyfriend - she came into my work for a haircut and we got chatting and got on really well. I then saw her on a night out and we got chatting again and she ended up coming back to my mum's. Nothing happened because she told me she had a boyfriend and I went mad at her and told her to get lost but then she went and told her boyfriend that I wouldn't leave her alone.
I've already taken one beating from this guy and I don't intend for it to happen again- just done 30 mins on my dad's chest expander and I'm going to walk around with my mum's ankle weights on all day. Does anyone have any experience of supplements? Thinking about going to Asda to get some Pro-Gain later on but I dont earn much and its expensive.
Not a great runner so putting extra pounds on wont really bother me if it saves me getting a beating. My mate reckons I should consider carrying a weapon around with me but I'm scared that he'll get hold of it and use it against me. He did suggest a water gun full of piss though to use as a deterrent.
Eat more pies, they have always helped me bulk up.
Well, your first post wasn't clear. Made it sound like you knew she had a boyfriend. Now it is clear.
Try the 100 Push Ups challenge (thread on here, but Google it and you'll find it). But remember to balance out any training your doing by working your whole body.
Initially you won't need any supplements, just ensure you're getting enough quality protein in your diet: lean beef; fresh oily fish; grilled chicken/turkey; eggs; etc. For an immediate post workout recovery drink, try the Rocky: a tall glass of milk with one or two raw eggs in it. Complex carbs will help to fuel your training but should be eaten earlier in the day, not late at night - certainly not in any great volume.
I'd say you only need to consider supplements when you hit a plateau (i.e. you're not getting any stronger), but even then, by varying your training you may be able to work through this too.
When you start on the supplements, you can get whey protein, or creatine cheap enough (i.e. <£15) from Holland & Barratt, GNC, etc. But do your research as to how best to use them.
I'm currently on Maxmuscle Cyclone which is fairly expensive but is a combined protein/creatine supplement. In the past this helped me get to 13st, but this was combined with 4 mixed training sessions a day.
***I repeat: there is no quick answer to this. Taking some powder isn't going to turn you into Arnie. It is down to the effort you put in to your training. The supplements are there to help you refuel effectively. But they should not be the first port of call. Look to your diet first.***
Er, no, no and thrice no. And for suggesting this, your mate needs a slap.
If you're truly concerned about your safety, I'd say take up some form of martial arts, or boxing training. This will also help you with your overall appearance and should provide you with access to trainers who can give you more specific training and dietary advice.
"The best shield is to accept the pain, then what can really destroy me?"
http://garyufm.blogspot.co.uk
haha I thought April fools had passed?
Thanks very much for the advice Southern Softie - very useful.
I am going to do the test for the 100 push-up challenge. Been watching Rocky III this morning and just had a can of red bull so got the adrenaline pumping through my veins - do you think its wise to do the test now or wait until I've calmed down a bit? I dont want to ruin the results because I'm on an adrenaline rush - mums lift cars off their kids and stuff when they're high on adrenaline dont they?
Don't worry about the weapon - I would never carry something dangerous. We were talking more about pissing into a water pistol and using it as a deterant (spelling?). If the guy comes up to me, I could just pull it out and threaten to squirt him with it.
Thanks so much for your help.