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    Family commitments

    I'm in the early stages of thinking about doing a round next year. I reckon I've got a good base to build on, having run ultras for the past few years, so am not too worried about the physical challenge, but am concerned by the amount of time I'm going to need to spend away from the family in what is essentially a selfish pursuit of my goals. How much time is realistically required to reccie the route, help support others in order to get experience and build a network of potential supporters, and get the necessary climbing and time on feet in that will be needed? How have others negotiated this with their non-running families?

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    I've been supporting BG attempts for 34 years now. Back in the mid - late 80's, two guys that I supported on separate occasions were divorced by their wives, over the weekends spent away on their own - you could say that Bob Graham was cited as the co-respondent.
    Many might not see it as being in the spirit of the challenge; but in actual fact you don't need to recce the entire route. I know of several successful rounds where the contender has been very au-fait with one particular leg and having supported many others on that leg, he has built up a network of good friends who are each very au-fait with another leg - there's no point in having supporters if they are merely acquaintances that you cannot trust to the nth degree ..... I can't get my head round the number of people who come on here begging for complete strangers to rock-up and support their attempt ..... you need to be every bit as au-fait with your support as you are with the route - even more so. If you serve your apprenticeship by supporting others, you'll have the right network to get the support you need
    In the club that I belong to, a contender is referred to as "the willing victim" - on the day you just do as you're told by a slick posse of very polished supporters. Your only responsibility is to be fit enough to do as you're told. Last thing that you need is the "victim" arguing with experienced support.
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    Ian, I have to admit to pointing several contenders this way, having been asked if the Club knows of anyone who could help them on their round/attempt. Though I do point out that supporting other attempts will earn brownie points.
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    Maybe I'm naive, but as a newcomer to this I would have thought it was pretty good strategy to help others out first, as this will get you experience and, hopefully, some contacts and potential future supporters.

    This is possibly an even harder sell to the family, however: "Look after the kids will you while I swan off for the weekend to help out a stranger I've met on the internet"...

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    If it's going to cause tensions or other problems with the family then don't do it. Unless you value running the BGR more than you value the wishes of your family. That's my two penneth, from a family man who would LOVE to do the BGR but is not willing to cause domestic upset to the degree necessary.
    Quote Originally Posted by Simon.B View Post
    Maybe I'm naive, but as a newcomer to this I would have thought it was pretty good strategy to help others out first, as this will get you experience and, hopefully, some contacts and potential future supporters.

    This is possibly an even harder sell to the family, however: "Look after the kids will you while I swan off for the weekend to help out a stranger I've met on the internet"...

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    Quote Originally Posted by benshep View Post
    If it's going to cause tensions or other problems with the family then don't do it. Unless you value running the BGR more than you value the wishes of your family. That's my two penneth, from a family man who would LOVE to do the BGR but is not willing to cause domestic upset to the degree necessary.
    The way you're running Ben I reckon you could do it without causing any upset to your family. You could set off running from Keswick at midnight and be back in Ilkley in time to put dinner on the table! No need for recces just get BM and AW to show you the way!

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    I knew there was a good reason why I put myself through this at the ripe old age of 21. Girlfriend free at the time too......😉

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