There was a thread on this before but i could not see it so will start again.
Was chatting to someone who has been a good friend from before the dawn of time (yes I have one) who was talking to 2 women we knew in our 20's (not friends - apparently i was arrogant, full of myself and thought I knew it all - no idea what they are talking about )
Anyway all 4 of us have daughters who are 15/16 and the 2 fishwives let their daughters sleep in their houses with their boyfriends.One has younger children and the rule is if they are in the house boyfriend can sleep in her bed but they cannot have sex. One has a much older boyfriend (18+). Now my and my friends daughters at not at that stage yet though her daughter (15) has an 18 year old sniffing around her.
If my daughter becomes sexually active whilst she is still quite young though her mother and i would dearly like to stop her we know we could not and would want to make sure she is safe and properly protected, however we would not tolerate her boyfriend sleeping over in her room.
Also I am not sure what I would think about an 18 year old seeing my daughter when she is 15/16
What do people think of this and reasoned argument please not just the "I would lop his b*ll*cks off" approach. Nice to hear from the ladies on this.
Also where this has happened perhaps when the child is older and you allow them to sleep together in your house how have people decided this - length of relationship, age etc?