mental health losing the plot

[beeb]

sorry I'm anonymous, I don't know where else to go and I've totally lost the plot.
Ive just failed the one thing I've always wanted. I'm 30 and I have to reassess everything in my life and start again but I don't know how and I don't have any anybody to help me. everything I had planned for my life has just diasppeared and I can't see anything in front of me.
I can't go for another run, I train everyday and the endorphins seem to work for about an hour before it falls apart again so I'm just sat here. runnings just hiding from it. what do I do? I don't know where to start or what to do.

[egor]

hi, if this is a real post and not a wind up, you may benefit from going to see a therapist, you could go to gp for advice on meds or ask for a referral for therapy within nhs or you could seek private therapy, try UKCP website and find a therapist link. meds may help but may not get to the route of the problem. good luck.

[beeb]

I just can't see what therapy could do, theres nothing wrong with me I just can't cope and I don't want to cope any more. Anit-depressants turned me into a zombie when I had them before.

[Witton Park]

sorry I'm anonymous, I don't know where else to go and I've totally lost the plot.
Ive just failed the one thing I've always wanted. I'm 30 and I have to reassess everything in my life and start again but I don't know how and I don't have any anybody to help me. everything I had planned for my life has just diasppeared and I can't see anything in front of me.
I can't go for another run, I train everyday and the endorphins seem to work for about an hour before it falls apart again so I'm just sat here. runnings just hiding from it. what do I do? I don't know where to start or what to do.

Could join the Fell Ponies

[Lola]

Dearest Beeb,

You don't tell us what it is you have just failed and there are too many possibilities to guess so, if you are happy too, let us know whats up.

If you are a member of a running/fell club, and we don't need to know which one, maybe throwing yourself into club matters might help. Medication can be replaced by a sense of belonging and a good club will certainly give you that (just don't bore the c**p out of everybody by telling them why you are down because they have their issues too - OK).

Do something practical TODAY to improve your life, even if it is only fixing a dripping tap or tidying the bedroom, start to take charge of your improvement; not an overnight solution but build up from a small start.

Don't stop running

Hugs,

[southernsoftie]

beeb,

As someone who's had to give up on various dreams at one stage or another, I sympathise.

I've had many knockbacks, and failed to get into a couple of things I really wanted to do. My approach was really just to try and get my head around it and move on.

I picked new goals for myself - some that made up for my failure, proving to myself that it was their loss and I would have been capable; others for my own enjoyment; and others to help me achieve a non-realised goal via another avenue.

I do still look back from time to time and wonder what if, or think how great it could have all been. But then I consider what I have now (materially, not a great deal) and count myself lucky.

For instance: right now, I'm working from home, got the sun streaming through my dining room window, a cool breeze blowing through, and some great Funk & Soul tunes playing. I can't help but smile.

Take joy in whatever pleasures you can: if there's a banister, slide down it. Come across a great view? Stop and enjoy it with a few deep breaths. A song comes on you really love? Dance to it. Sing along to it. Got knees that work? Get out in this weather to the top of a hill and enjoy it.

I won't come out with the usual trite nonsense of having your health, roof over your head, etc. because that would just marginalise your disappointment. By all means think about your set-back, but try and direct your thoughts towards how you can use this to give yourself a future direction. If you need to, don't forget the support of your family/friends, or as suggested elsewhere a health professional.

Thinking happy thoughts for you beeb.

[stevefoster]

Could join the Fell Ponies

Anyone's welcome

[beeb]

Could join the Fell Ponies

Sorry, had a sense of humour failure earlier
Had some wine now though.
Fell ponies could be an option! I can move house somewhere comepletely new now...

[Al Fowler]

You should get yourself out on some recces!
Theres plenty going on all the time, all over the place.

Everyone ive met so far from this forum has been so friendly and good to be around and ive made some good friend, the abilities wont be out of your league, and a recce isnt a race so you dont have to worry about getting left behind.


Sorry to hear your down, it'll come round!

[stevefoster]

Sorry, had a sense of humour failure earlier
Had some wine now though.
Fell ponies could be an option! I can move house somewhere comepletely new now...

You can join the Fell Ponies from wherever your based, do what Al Fowler says and get out on some reccies and meet some good folk