Code of conduct.

[millipede]

Firstly I would argue that I use gayness as an "insult", nor do I find merry and Stolly comments especially offensive or think they are homophobic (despite the great fun I have winding them up) but they can easily be construed as such, same as" Al's French comments" ,

The main issue and what I have been using this thread and the comments made by Merry et al for behind the scenes and part of HP's point (which his original point made me seriously think about, including the stuff I post on) , is that young people and possibly children read this stuff or have access to it and potentially may only take the comments written at face value.

That's the whole point isn't it. That HP was making, and no one was prepared to consider.

I understand that everyone JUMPED to slam HP because they know Merrylegs (either in real life or because they have talked to him for so long on here). They know that he is a great guy who isn't homophobic, wouldn't knowingly upset someone and is often the peace maker on the forum. I agree with all these opinions.

But Henry P might not have been reading the forum so long and not have such insight.

He rationally said that comments about gay men and tons of vaseline and not stooping down around certain men in showers are very old hat
.................and to an objective gay man reading the forum (young or not) could be taken as insulting and excluding.

I think the reactions of everyone else who contributed (towards HP) were even more excluding.