Quote Originally Posted by Stagger View Post
I have read and studied the triangle from each of the 3 corners, hoping to understand each aspect.

One question has risen, "what happens when there is no direct conversation?"

It's feels like emotional torture.

Is there a webpage or books that I can use to get a better understanding of how people work so I can get out of my mess?
I don't have any actual conversations going on either, other than with myself. The ones with yourself are the best because all the relevant details are present. Stressful emotions are an alarm bell, one that alerts you to the fact that something is wrong with your thinking, the fact that a conversation you are having with yourself is hurting yourself.

It feels like emotional torture because your mind is not yet empowered in a way that yeilds answers. Remember that things such as the Karpmann Drama Triangle are programming for your subconscious, not answers to the problem. The answers to the problems come from inside your own mind as a result of programming. I can't stress enough the fact that stress/depression are in us, not out there; they are the result of bad alignment of our thinking.

If i had to recommend a reading program to someone, based on my own experience, it would be in this order:

The Field. (Lynne McTaggart) L
Power Vs Force: The hidden determinants of human behaviour. (David R Hawkins) L
Loving what is. (Byron Katie) R
Healing and Recovery. (David R Hawkins) L
What the bleep do we know? (W.Arntz/B.Chasse/M.Vincente) R

This is a program of reading for so-called 'Left Brained' people. If the terminology in McTaggart is too much, go on to Hawkins and then back to McTaggart, Hawkins has a glossary.

Don't skip Byron Katie, keep going with it until you have an epiphany. My epiphany resulted in 6hrs of panic attacks, so strap yourself in. You'll know when you know what she means.

The L/R at the end is left/right brained writing style.