
Originally Posted by
Mossdog
Yes, it seems to me that most poets side with the "it's better to have..." perspective, but personally I'm still undecided. It's straying a little but Emily Dickinson wrote:
My life closed twice before its close
My life closed twice before its close--
It yet remains to see
If Immortality unveil
A third event to me
So huge, so hopeless to conceive
As these that twice befell.
Parting is all we know of heaven,
And all we need of hell.
I can't tell whether the events she referred to were 'luuuuuvvvvvve' related, nor can I ascertain from the last two lines whether she considered these to be heaven or hell (or both), so I'm putting Emily down, like me, as an 'undecided' re the proposition

(and doesn't her poem give you the shivers? It does me).
i love that poem.... i guess what your question is pertaining to is the risk associated with falling in love with someone, and one of the major risks is losing them and the associated pain...that made me think about the following poem which has been posted before...i find it very moving.....
Time does not bring relief
Time does not bring relief; you all have lied
Who told me time would ease me of my pain!
I miss him in the weeping of the rain;
I want him at the shrinking of the tide;
The old snows melt from every mountain-side,
And last year's leaves are smoke in every lane;
But last year's bitter loving must remain
Heaped on my heart, and my old thoughts abide.
There are a hundred places where I fear
To go - so with his memory they brim.
And entering with relief some quiet place
Where never fell his foot or shone his face
I say, 'There is no memory of him here!'
And so stand stricken, so remembering him.
Edna St Vincent Millay (1892 -1950)