Young Love

[Multiterrainer]

I can only speak from my experience but my mum was worried about my sexuality when I was 16 and actually set me up with her friend who was just divorced from her husband. She had no problem with her staying over and in fact preferred it as she thought it would be a bit weird at hers because her kids are older than me.

Welcome back John - how's the bulking up going and when's your GF next on TV?

[JohnM32]

Welcome back John - how's the bulking up going and when's your GF next on TV?

Hey Multiterrainer! I've actually been working out on my dad's chest expander everyday so feeling a lot stronger thanks.

I asked her for her mobile but she wouldn't give it to me at the start and I got angry at her and started shouting. I say silly things when I get angry and I blurted out that I'd kill myself if she didn't give me her number. Her face changed, she said a few things off camera and then gave me her number. Sent a few texts but she's been working a lot and hasn't had chance to respond yet.

[plodding bear]

John, glad to see you're still alive! Given your rather messed-up life, I'm surprised your mum didn't join in.
AS, my daughter had a boyfriend stopping over at sixteen. Like so many have said, to know they are sexually active and to try and pretend it's not happening is just burying your head in the sand. After all, they may still have lots of dodgy and embarrassing questions to ask, or things to discuss, and they need to know it isn't a taboo subject. Given that our daughter was at college/school, we limited staying over to weekends, and had a definite 'kicking out time' during the week. Lots of discussions about respect, feelings, differing points of view and stuff, not the mechanics and consequences, which we're all bombarded to death about nowadays!

[OneHillWonder]

Lol, best advice yet from JohnM32 and from plodding bear too of course!

My boyfriend stayed over from when I was 17 (he was 25 ). I don't think it's right any younger than 16, there's a big leap in maturity from school girl to college student. But really it has to be judged on the individual teenagers and perhaps how long they've been in a relationship. 15 is underage though, regardless of anything else and they should not have boys staying in their room! Oh and teenage girls will always go out with older boys.

[Wheeze]

We made a strict boundary. No sleeping together in our house irrespective of what they did in their own lives. Eldest daughter, now 26, living together with BF (but Hubby since Sunday - woo Hoo) for 4 years respected this with no problem and it sets a marker for the younger two. Next time eldest comes to stay, they will share a bed naturellment. It's the right way to do things, it's what we went through and does no harm but reinforces respect between individuals and generations....something that we erode at our peril.

[Antisocial]

We made a strict boundary. No sleeping together in our house irrespective of what they did in their own lives. Eldest daughter, now 26, living together with BF (but Hubby since Sunday - woo Hoo) for 4 years respected this with no problem and it sets a marker for the younger two. Next time eldest comes to stay, they will share a bed naturellment. It's the right way to do things, it's what we went through and does no harm but reinforces respect between individuals and generations....something that we erode at our peril.

this was the view of my mother, my partner and i never married so whilst she was alive we never slept together in the family home.