Code of conduct.

[FellMonster]

I can't say that the comments 'upset' me however they did concern me enough to add my voice to the couple of members who had been ridiculed for challenging the supposedly funny anti gay comments. My concern is about how we may inadvertently through our 'banter' exclude people. Imagine you were a young (gay) man and had been posting here regularly. You had made virtual friends with others here and then the 'banter' started- how do you imagine you would feel as you arrived for the Borrowdale race? Would you feel welcome? Might you stay for the do? I doubt it. From the other point of view- you are a forum regular; had been having a laugh and everyone had enjoyed the banter. You were looking forward to the race and the do. Perhaps you might meet young 'Thingy' from the forum you'd got to know him quite well and were looking forward to buying him a pint. Afterwards you thought: "Funny 'Thingy' never turned up he seemed quite keen."
We should be proud that the forum is self regulating and I hope this helps keep it like that.

I'm sorry but this makes no sense to me. The whole "thingy not turning up at Borrowdale"?

If you can't have a laugh at yourself full stop then heaven help you.

[Multiterrainer]

But part of my point was makes the comments in question "anti gay" and who is decides. If they had been as blatant as "homosexuality is bad" I could understand that they were "anti" but is stereotyping the same?

Obviously the individual decides (in the Borrowdale thread case Balin) as to what they consider 'anti-whatever' or 'whatever-phobic' and feels the need to say so.

Personally there are things I occasionally find offensive that have reared their 'ugly-heads' on the forum from time to time but usually I just let it be coz I don't do arguments and anger.

Like DT I don't care much for swearing, nor the arrogance of those who feel its ok to speed on country roads (they know who they are and on that occasion I felt the need to respond), but most of all I dislike any personal insults to fellow forumites - the irony of this is that, as FM alluded to earlier, Balin is as guilty of that as much as anyone

http://forum.fellrunner.org.uk/showt...451#post207451

[Henry Porter]

I'm not sure I can add much more. I just wanted to get people to think a bit about what they say and how they say it. As for 'who decides?' I don't know but I tend to be guided by this: " The quality of your communication is determined by the receiver" so I try put myself in their shoes. All of this makes me sound like a really boring git so I'm going to shut up now.
Sorry FM I wasn't clear 'Thingy' was meant to be the forum name of the young gay man.

[FellMonster]

Obviously the individual decides (in the Borrowdale thread case Balin) as to what they consider 'anti-whatever' or 'whatever-phobic' and feels the need to say so.

Personally there are things I occasionally find offensive that have reared their 'ugly-heads' on the forum from time to time but usually I just let it be coz I don't do arguments and anger.

Like DT I don't care much for swearing, nor the arrogance of those who feel its ok to speed on country roads (they know who they are and on that occasion I felt the need to respond), but most of all I dislike any personal insults to fellow forumites - the irony of this is that, as FM alluded to earlier, Balin is as guilty of that as much as anyone

http://forum.fellrunner.org.uk/showt...451#post207451

And therein lies the eloquent answer.

No-one is perfect, we are all capable of offence. Therefore, if something offends you stay away from that thing or that individual. That doesn't mean that you have to leave the forums here.....isn't there an option to not view a person's posts? If so, simply choose that option for the person who hath offended you....

[FellMonster]

I'm not sure I can add much more. I just wanted to get people to think a bit about what they say and how they say it. As for 'who decides?' I don't know but I tend to be guided by this: " The quality of your communication is determined by the receiver" so I try put myself in their shoes. All of this makes me sound like a really boring git so I'm going to shut up now.

I think I understand what you're trying to say here.....put yourself in the other persons shoes.....but, then where is your personality.....you'd end up never truly being yourself......that's not to say that you should never consider others, but there is a time and a place.

[Multiterrainer]

And therein lies the eloquent answer.

No-one is perfect, we are all capable of offence. Therefore, if something offends you stay away from that thing or that individual. That doesn't mean that you have to leave the forums here.....isn't there an option to not view a person's posts? If so, simply choose that option for the person who hath offended you....

As eloquent as I ever get, though it took me god knows how long to compose it!!

[Antisocial]

And therein lies the eloquent answer.

No-one is perfect, we are all capable of offence. Therefore, if something offends you stay away from that thing or that individual. That doesn't mean that you have to leave the forums here.....isn't there an option to not view a person's posts? If so, simply choose that option for the person who hath offended you....

Certainly that's what a lot of people do with my posts.

[Witton Park]

WP I don't know what you are on about. It seems to me that the most vociferous critics of PC are Daily Mail reading small minded little Englanders, and I don't consider myself PC but i do think that if you are engaging in banter about sexuality or race or other issues that people may find sensitive or be offended by then you need to put your brain in gear before you speak, not like what I do. Now I'm tempted to resubmit the post I put on the Borrowdale thread a few minutes ago but deleted because I didn't have the bottle to leave there, but also because after reading HP's excellent post I thought better of it (and didn't want to get into trouble).

Never read the Daily Mail!

That's the point I'm trying to get across Grouse - you've just offended all Daily Mail readers as small minded little Englanders.

let me know where you and your mates are racing next, so I can avoid turning up and being picked on - don't you agree Henry?

Of course I'm not really offended or intimidated - but why is it OK to portray someone in the way you have, but claim offense when it suits.

[FellMonster]

Never read the Daily Mail!

That's the point I'm trying to get across Grouse - you've just offended all Daily Mail readers as small minded little Englanders.

let me know where you and your mates are racing next, so I can avoid turning up and being picked on - don't you agree Henry?

Of course I'm not really offended or intimidated - but why is it OK to portray someone in the way you have, but claim offense when it suits.

I suspect he does not let the left hand know what the right hand is doing (or vica versa).....though I'm concerned that this equally applies to some forms of masturbation

[FellMonster]

Certainly that's what a lot of people do with my posts.

It may be the answer to those who are easily offended